Leading on Empty

Experience Does Not Automatically Make Us Wiser

The One Thing

Experience gives us material. Reflection is what can turn that material into insight.

Why This?

Repeating something for twenty years is not the same as learning from twenty years of experience.

We often treat experience as a credential. Sometimes it is. But experience alone can also make us very practiced at repeating ourselves.

Wayne Cordeiro makes a distinction I keep coming back to: experience does not automatically become wisdom. Reflection is part of the conversion process.

That feels obvious until I apply it to my own life.

I can finish a project and immediately begin the next one. Lead through a difficult season and feel relieved when it is over. Read a book, attend a conference, have a complicated conversation, try a new tool—and move on.

The experience happened. But did I learn?

Reflection creates enough distance to ask different questions:

What actually happened?
What did I expect to happen?
What surprised me?
What did I learn about myself?
What would I repeat?
What would I change?
What pattern am I beginning to notice?

That last question may be especially important. Wisdom often has something to do with recognizing a pattern early enough to respond differently this time.

This is one reason the BBT Companion includes “Look Back.” It is not nostalgia. It is a deliberate refusal to let every encounter disappear into the next one.

Experience gives us stories. Reflection may reveal what the stories have been trying to teach us.

Source trail: Wayne Cordeiro, Leading on Empty; Richard Foster, Celebration of Discipline.